The Classic Thai-farang mismatch

Posted by admin on October 25th, 2007 filed in Lifestyling, girls, just visiting

You know, it may be a cliché topic but I’m always fascinated by the mixed couples I see here in Thailand. OK, admittedly most of them are foreign men with a Thai girl and sometimes they seem so mismatched. At the mall or popular local restaurants it makes for great people watching!

Even better is watching the scowl of disapproval on the faces of the female travellers who also notice them. I don’t blame them really, some of it really is quite pathetic hey! It reminds me of a similar set up I noticed in Jamaica with single American women cruising around with their ‘local rude bwoy’ guide.

Anyway, I guess if both parties are relatively happy then who cares. But some are just rank opportunists. There’s this one girl I picked up in Bubbles disco on New Year’s eve and was with for a couple of months before she lost patience with me for not supporting her financially, and I’ve since seen here three times each time with a different guys. She’s not a prostitute but certainly wants to get hitched to a farang who’s going to take care of her and her baby.

Well, it’s OK, I suppose, if two people are more or less than same age, but others are just so blatant. Men with women, who apparently married to them but are younger than his children. I guess that one aint exclusive to Thailand but with a maturity lacking here, cultural mismatch and then a generation gap, I just can’t imagine what they talk about, hey.

I’ve met some of these old geezers and believe me, they aren’t stupid. They’ve been doctors and lawyers and property developers or whatever and are loaded. They marry women who haven’t even finished school or even gone to school. I guess this ‘love’ thing crosses all barriers, or maybe the fact that these young girls are so opposite to what would’ve presumably been their previous wife is what attracts them to this little waifs. Who knows? Who cares?

I’ve been here awhile to know a thing or two about how a Thai girls thinks and sometimes I look into their faces and can see it’s a financial convenience. They don’t look the least bit interested, they treat these men – who may have been respectable intellectual giants in a previous life somewhere else – with utter contempt. I can picture them laughing wit their friends behind his back ‘silly old farang, make him pay for all me and my friends’.

These are girls who scarcely know what the capital city of Australia is yet treat their husbands as some sort of fool – a gravy train that should be milked while it lasts, and I’ve seen so many of these fall apart without any longevity. I’ve met plenty of divorced Thai women in their 40s who hitched themselves to a foreigner with such reckless abandon in order to find financial security, that after a few years they simply cannot bare to be with them any longer, coping with a completely foreign culture, living abroad where there is no Thai food, no simple-minded Thai friends and a husband who can barely count to 10 in Thai.

They get divorced and come home with the kid. But for the rest of their life they get a nice generous alimony, they go back to their little rural villages a hero!